Polished, Yet Human

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Morning shower. Cooking dinner (ask me about my famous guac sometime). Cleaning the house, driving the car or going to bed.

However you listen to your podcast, be sure to add mine to the list.

My podcast is going to be allll things boss babe. It will be a mix of solo-cast with cutting edge interviews.

If you’re interested in:

Leadership
Conscious relationships
Having a success mindset
How to exude confidence no matter what
How to reprogram limiting beliefs
How to get people to believe in your vision
Understanding and overcoming anxiety
Letting go of needing to be liked
And many, many other topics, this is just a sampler

Then my podcast is absolutely for you.

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I work with both therapists (somatic, cognitive be

I work with both therapists (somatic, cognitive behavioral) and different coaches (life, relationship, health, business). It depends on what I’m needing at the time.

I do this obviously for personal reasons, but I also count it as professional development. I am always fine tuning my coaching skills and value offering an up-leveled experience to my clients.

So yesterday I had a CBT session and was hit with this zinger…

⚡️”Caitlin, you spend too much time caring about other people’s feelings and not enough time caring about your own.”⚡️

Whoaaaaa.

Spend some time with that statement before you continue reading and feel how it hits you. I have a feeling many of you can relate.

And then she recommend the book, The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck 🤣 by @sarahknightauthor.

I’ve known for a long time that in order to feel safe in my childhood I had to try to manage my dad’s feelings, to keep him happy, so he wouldn’t get angry at me.

Fast forward to now.

Your body gets hard wired to respond a certain way to stimulus (your nervous system). Your thoughts get patterned in a certain way and run on auto-pilot (your programming).

For me, it was superimposed upon everything I did to just keep people happy, at the expense of myself.

Again, managing emotions of others = safety

This can also be called people pleasing.

While I’ve done a ton of work on this, and I don’t have the same doormat tendencies like I used to, I still am catching myself deviating from my truth at times in an attempt to try to make someone like me, aka make them happy, aka abandon myself.

So I’ve made a decision.

And I know that when we make a decision, our body follows suit and we are willing to expand our capacity for handling uncomfortable emotions and we are willing to do the required mental work to make new choices.

🗣The decision is this year I’m going to be selfish AF.

These questions will be guiding my choices:

🖤 How does this feel in my body? >> based on answer, I make the appropriate choice

🖤 Do I want to do this? >> based on my answer, I say or act in accordance

Will you join me in being selfish AF as well? Drop a comment and let me know.

You get to break through the barriers of your mind

You get to break through the barriers of your mind and what you previously thought was possible for yourself.

You get to exceed the version of who you’ve known yourself to be.

Your life is comprised of the stories you’ve told yourself over and over.

Think about it: You tell yourself a story about who you are.

That story either creates a box 📦 around your existence by placing invisible limits on who you get to be or the life you get to have.

Or…

That story can crate unlimited opportunity by opening doors that had previously been shut, causing you to walk through and access higher levels of potential.

It all boils down to which script you’re going to let run your life.

But the beauty of it is we get to rescript at any point.

It does not matter your age, your background, the amount of challenge you’ve been through or are currently in.

You hold the pen 🖊 & only you get to call the shots on who you get to be and what you get to have.

How is this done you might be wondering?

1️⃣ Unpacking the current story you’re operating from. Doing the root work here to move past the limitations by understanding how they got set up & by offering a perspective shift in its place.

This can also be called deprogramming.

2️⃣ Then comes the reprogramming.
You write out a new story of who you want to be and the life you want to live.

You begin to take the action steps to make this version a reality. You begin to behave differently, you implement boundaries, you have new conversations (with yourself & others), you get clear on your yes’s & no’s, you have the courage to ask for more ($, at work, in relationship, rates if you’re a biz owner, etc), your posture changes, your tone of voice shifts, I could go on & on but I think you’re getting it.

You also do the spiritual work. You monitor your energy. You deepen your connection with god, the universe & use this connection to give you the strength to keep going.

You do the nervous system work. You form a deeper relationship with your body, with your tolerance to uncomfortable emotions, your ability to feel & emote & experience safety.

Overly simplified yet true: Your upgraded version is just one new story away.

What You Need To Know When Hiring A Coach: First

What You Need To Know When Hiring A Coach:

First and foremost, identify exactly what you want to achieve in your coaching journey. Why do you want to hire a coach?

Now begin your interview process. 👩🏻‍💻

Get a sense of their overall vibe, personality, coaching style, expertise.

When you’re talking to them, how does it feel in your body? Trust your instinct.

Have a list of questions ready to ask them.

🤔 Some questions to consider:
• How long have you been a coach for?
• What’s your speciality?
• This is what I’m looking to be coached on _____, how do you see yourself helping me with that?
• Can you give me examples of transformations / results you’ve helped facilitate within your clients?
• How would you describe yourself as a coach?
• This is who I am _____, have you helped other people like me before?
• Can you tell me about your coaching process? How does your program work? Cost? What exactly do I get?
• Why is your coaching program designed this way?
• What type of person do you serve best? Would you consider me a good fit for you?

Be sure to read testimonials on their website.

Lastly, do you feel open and ready? You’ll always experience barriers to change (it’s a natural part of being human). However, do you feel more openness and excitement than resistance?

If so, you’re absolutely coachable, and if you find a talented coach you feel a connection with, you’ll definitely get results.

I deeply believe in coaching, but I do not believe I am the coach for everyone. So go ahead and save this and use this as a guide for your interview process for when you’re ready to hire a coach in the new year.

I’d be lying if I didn’t say I enjoy the lifestyle and money 💸 that has come through my beautiful profession.

But the real bag?? I swear to God, straight from my heart, is watching women transform before my very eyes. Owning their story. Owning their power. Radiating confidence. Showing up differently in their lives. Loving and accepting themselves. Claiming their worth. Making boss moves.

My coaches have changed my life. And I have changed the lives of others. And I want this experience for you too. 🤍 Caitlin

As my business empire grows in the online space an

As my business empire grows in the online space and my work reaches more people, I’ve been contemplating the term “influencer”.

And here’s what I’ve come to:

I don’t want to sell you my life. I want to sell you yours.

When people say I want to be like you, Caitlin. What they really mean deep down is that they want to become more of *who they are*.

I don’t want anyone to be like me. I am here to help you become more you.

I am here to help you be able to identify who you are and then have the courage to live it out.

To become more fully expressed.

To claim your worth, your power, your value.

If I can influence in any way, it’s not to show you how great I am and highlight my fancy pants life.

Because what you don’t see:
- I cried like a kid in front of my mom over the holidays

- I got in a fight with my brother over the holidays and it was heated

- I felt nervous in the beginning of running my LC Training group class the other day and I noticed I had a weird red rash on my chest and felt embarrassed (and I have to offer a caveat here, b/c I still ran the class like a boss, it doesn’t have to be an either or, it can be an “and”)

- I have dishes in my sink from 2 days ago that I haven’t felt like dealing with yet that have crusted avocado on them. P.S. Avocado 🥑 hardened is a bitch to clean 😅!

The list goes on, people.

It saddens me when I see people comparing themselves to other people, believing the other person is better than them.

Because I once felt less than. And it crippled my ability to become a fully expressed version of who I am.

Why would you want to become more of who you are if you don’t believe who you are is good enough, right?

But it’s all a lie. It’s an illusion. It’s voices / thoughts in our head that we falsely believe, coupled with the current culture impressing upon us that there’s “better” people out there in the form of influencers, or just random people online or random people that we know that we deem as better.

Nobody is better than you.

Your life has a purpose. You have a purpose. How do I know? Because you were born. God does not create accidents. God creates with intentionality. You belong here. 🤎

A big, hearty welcome to @nextlevelcoachtraining F

A big, hearty welcome to @nextlevelcoachtraining Fall ‘21 - ‘22 class!!! Look at these bright, sparkly future life coaches 🤩

Yesterday was our first group class. It was a very exciting day because everyone got to meet for the first time after completing Part 1 of the Training, where they received 1:1 coaching from their Trainer. Now they are in Part 2: learning how to life coach and then next comes Part 3: how to create a killer diller coaching business.

Please help me in cheering on these fabulous women 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 by dropping an encouraging comment!

ALSO: Doors for early-bird Spring ‘22 enrollment are officially opening in a few weeks on Feb 1 🗓 where you can save 1k off tuition.

🥳 I already have 4 SIGN-UPS!!! Yup, 4 ambitious women have already put their deposits down 💵.

So do not sleep on this opportunity if you’re feeling that internal nudge.

You know I sell this out every time and space is limited to 12. So get on my waitlist by clicking the link in my bio.

ATTN: If you’re already on my waitlist, I will be reaching out to you FIRST come first serve when doors officially open.

LASTLY… if you want to put your deposit down NOW, I won’t say no 😉 lol. Just go ahead and DM me.

🖤 Your teacher & coach, Caitlin

With every thought you think and word you speak yo

With every thought you think and word you speak you are either validating your old story or affirming your new one.

Every time I write ✍️ out a new story of who I’m becoming and the life I’m creating, I have to use it as my script.

What I mean is I forget who I said I wanted to be! 🤣

So I do this process with regularity:

I reach a new baseline level of operation. You can just think of this as a new growth milestone reached. Then I integrate this new way of being so it fully becomes ME 💁🏼‍♀️.

Then I go for more (again!) and I write out that *new new* story.

That’s why I’m the Peak Performance Coach. I bring you to your next peak.

So as I was saying…

When becoming the next level, going for the new peak, it’s easy to sink into default and forget who you said you wanted to become!

So for me, I literally have to read WHO I say I am so I know how to think, behave and engage in life.

We have to be dogged with this, guys.

Without a script to guide you, based on your values, what you deem as important to you, you won’t know how to be because you’ll just do knee-jerk.

And knee-jerk is the conditioned self. It’s not the true self.

The true self is found when you go BELOW the conditioning + ask yourself who am I FOR REAL? What do I want to develop within myself to become Her?

Then you keep reminding yourself over + over of who you say you are now.

With this repetition of the new story, you are signaling to your brain to begin to behave differently.

You can ask yourself, how does my new version handle this situation? Then you do it.

What does my new version think about myself? Then you have the courage to latch onto those new thoughts.

There will be resistance during this process. You will feel an internal battle between old + new. I’ve learned through doing my own somatic therapy that it’s just your nervous system trying to still keep you safe by attempting to pull you back to the falsely believed comfort of your old self.

So while you go through this process of reminding yourself who the f you are, you have to also increase your willingness to experience uncomfortable sensations as you waiver between old + new. DM me for that new new coaching!

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